The game of love is a trial for us all. Whilst, others may have a game plan. We all set aside a list which we require our potential partners to have. In a previous article: You are who you attract, I’ve mentioned that in order for you to get what you want in another, you be be that. Lets say for example: you want emotional stability , you must be emotionally stable . so you get my drift…
For the moment, Id likes to focus on the term ‘Gold-digger’. I can’t deny, some women are out to find love, whilst others may set out for finances. But here, I have divided the two main meanings that may inflict this term:
Ms Financial Security Vs the Real Gold Digger.
What about those women who own their own money and just want someone who is just as secure as them? This is what I find the most intriguing about the label because it is as innocent as it sounds. Either a lady may have lacked, or had in her previous relationships financial security. Whether it stem back from a secure upbringing of a good economy, some women just want that repeated. We aren’t talking designer handbags and name branded shoes, just covering the basics: the main provider, the one who when all falls short, will be able to pick you back up again. A lover can naturally replace your primary caretaker. Many aren’t where they wish to be in terms of status and money. We do try and seek someone who inspires us and elevates us to do well. When one seeks an equal, they aspire in terms of potential, rather than basing it on the present day.
Forwarding the argument, let’s talk designer handbags. This is where the real gold digger appears. The gold-digger could be unemployed. , looking for the gloss of all the finer things in life. She could drop hints; via emotional abuse- trying to get you to buy her love and making you feel as if you’ve let her down. , having a bad day? Why not drop her best of the best prime fragrance.
In the book :Act like a Lady, Think like a Man ,Steve Harvey touches upon this term “I’m here to tell you, though, ladies that the term “gold digger” is one of the traps we men set to keep you off our money trail; we created that term for you so that we can have all our money and still get everything we want from you without you asking for or expecting this very basic, instinctual responsibility that men all over the world are obligated to assume and embrace. … KNOW THIS: It is your right to expect that a man will pay for your dinner, your movie ticket, your club entry fee, or whatever else he has to pay for in exchange for your time.”,
I am no anti feminist. Truth be told, it’s not only the female we must be alert of. Easily, men could fall into the category. Many women are no strangers to being the subject of the main provider. There are men who have to watch their wallets in terms of spending, however them who look for’ sugar mama’ do what the real gold digger doesn’t, their intention is to be spoilt in the radiance of materialism from the pocket of another person.
Girls and their pearls- switching it up.
To see past all the jewels that one can possess in this day and age women can earn just as much as men. Unquestionably the roles have reversed. A few men prefer to be stay at home dads and women prefer to be the bread winners. It’s a pleasing note to know that women can be providers too. With careers high on the rise, it wouldn’t be fair for them to give that up if their partners are willing to switch roles.
They say “Love doesn’t pay the mortgage”. This of course is true. I mean is it important that your lover can support you in this way. Should it be the -be all or end all of everything? I’m guessing in causes strains and pressures. Especially if the balance of wealth are rocky. One side may weigh up more and leave the other hanging. Most couples share the same status when it comes to money, and that may give them a fair exchange of power. Love shouldn’t be based on the five letter M word that’s talked about day in day out.
The world of celebrities
I’m sure, looking at couples in the spotlight like Kim Kardashian and Kanye West, David and Victoria Beckham; they would have loved their partners equally as much even if they were to work in Tesco’s. Perhaps, but they must have a least likely chance of meeting.
Kanye West said:
“You mean to tell me that this girl with this f—ng body and this face is also into style, and she’s a nice person, and she has her own money and is family-oriented?”
Later went on to say that certain girls come along for your money. Jokingly enough, Mr. West has a song titled ‘gold-digger’. Which to me promotes the fact those men may not mind having a woman who lacks finances because this makes him feel like a man in a sense so he can provide for his woman, because it makes him feel like a man having cash in his pockets. The song doesn’t make the term seem bleak but celebrate it.
All points taken into consideration. The term Gold-digger’s focal point does lie face to face with money. Money, in general can be abused by anyone whose intention isn’t to use it wisely and with respect. In terms of a relationship, I suggest the way to know ones true motive is to figure out, one: their views on money then two: check if their actions match up. As in love as you may be, it’ll soon display. It’s just about the understanding of character, and the perspective you choose to see it. in my opinion, there’s nothing wrong with wanting the opposition to have, as long as its for the right reasons.