It’s a default dream to go on holiday outside of your city with some of your closest friends. I love the idea of just getting far away from your responsibilities, your family and other dramas that may be lurking around the corner of your life and letting the hours pass by as you spend quality time with your second family: your best friends.
But as with many dreams, reality tends to wake you up the absurd way by sprinkling every step of the holiday process with things to make everything more difficult than it should be, if not be so confusing and frustrating that you might end up cancelling the whole trip altogether. Some people might not be updated or might not have gotten the message on time, some might have unexpected plans that could hinder them from making it or some people might end up bringing someone else along with them, which could alter the energy of the group completely, which could have an effect on how the entire trip will pan out.
If you’re part of a huge friendship group, always make an effort to explain to them your circumstances, your schedule and anything else that they might need to know when planning a trip. If you’ve got work, tell them your days off and keep them in touch of your attempts to swap your shifts or arranging a sitter. If you’re the resident planner, keep everyone in the know of any sudden changes to the itinerary so everyone who’s agreed can quickly follow suit. In times when time, money and schedules are being tested, no one wants a flake or a random Rudy. Sorry, just had to throw that in.
When it comes to this section, I have four rules I like to keep coming back to:
- If you guys are out backpacking or doing some heavy duty physical stuff, don’t be the person dragging the entire group with their big suitcase or always having to go on a toilet break even when everyone went before leaving the restaurant (guilty!). Pack appropriately; talk to those going to see what they’re bringing and always make sure to do everything on time.
- In situations like this, it’s always best to let the majority win and not hold anyone back to where they want to go or where they want to eat just because you’re not feeling it. Remember, you’re on holiday for a reason! Try everything out; you might end up loving it!
- When waking up at a certain time, even if it’s outside of your normal comfortable hours, do everyone a favour and set an alarm and wake up as on time as you can. A killjoy is never appreciated, especially in the form of a cranky sleeper whose dreams was interrupted because they’re the only ones who haven’t showered yet.
- And lastly, if you happen to be on a trip with someone who enjoys alone time, it’s best to leave him or her alone even for five minutes. I’m one of those kinds of people and my friends are always confused why I end up getting lost or being out of the caravan in the middle of the day by myself. Sometimes, even if you’re with your best friends, a breather or some time to return to your own thoughts is essential to maintain your inner balance.
Being out in a different city or country with friends is a bit different from being with them to say, China Town or a shopping centre, where you have the option of going home and parting ways at the end of the day.
Even if squabbles or any misinterpreted words are thrown in the table, you’re still each other’s rides back to the hotel and the ones you’ll be waking up next to, so unless you’re comfortable giving and getting the silent treatment or your relationship is stronger than any temporary misunderstanding (which if so, congrats!), then it’s best to clear the air as quickly as possible and apologise. I heard that going on holiday with friends can be a prelude to what it’s like to live with them, where you’ll see not only the good and intimate part of their personality, but also the things that are normally left at home, so be prepared for that.
But at the end of the day, always remember to recognise the vibe of the group and just go with the flow from there; it’s always a fun memory looking back on time spent abroad with your second family and growing together through new experiences and new stories to share. Happy summer!